Emotional Journey from Letting Go To Moving On

Everyone keeps saying let go and move on …past is past …look at good things you have in life ..count your blessings…

Well all that is ok, it's understandable and agreeable  also …but is it so easy to break away from memories….

No it is not …

That is why it is so annoying when people say you need to Move on …you think the person struggling does not know this…they are trying give them that benefit of doubt.

The toughest thing is to overcome that anger, the person has towards themselves.

Anger is just a the secondary emotion or cover up, primary emotions here that are effecting and being triggered are that of wide range from guilt to shame to fear to helplessness to feeling lonely.

These primary emotions which a person tries to hide are coming from the basic need for safety, respect, acceptance , love. When these are  effected or hampered one feels threatened. 

These triggers makes the whole process of letting go and move on so difficult.

 

Internally when these triggers interact with memories it creates a lot of pain and hurt.  All these feelings and emotions lead to unhealthy attachment and dependency.

Difficulty is in breaking away from such attachment and moving on is impossible because we fear freedom and letting go is tough tough because we are too  scared to let go of things we are so used to of.

Letting go is difficult because we have to give up the identity we have and rebuild our  self and our emotional boundries.

 Our own limiting beliefs hold us from moving on because we let them define who we are. 

What we try to do is we still try to control things around us or people around us in hope that things will be fine.

Many times you feel staying and holding on to is easier and you feel invested in the relationship.

 The whole thought process that “ A known devil is better than an unknown an Angel”.

We romanticize the whole relationship and situation to look at the good  in it and then we forget the bad in it easily.

Once this happens we ourselves feel letting go is not an option.

 The whole thought process that “ It is easier to break things but it takes effort to build”.

Being alone is a scary and has lot of  unfamiliar aspect for many and to avoid this we choose not to move on and let go to settle for something that is known and familiar.

So next time you feel you are not able to make a decision consider this and give yourself a chance.

It's a difficult process but not impossible….

 

Handling emotional outburst

Our emotions and feelings play an important role in the way we behave and how our personality is shaped.

We are emotional beings everything that happens around us effects us directly or indirectly. Our circumstances and situations decide how we will behave and most of the time this is based on how we feel emotionally.

That is why we are all so vulnerable and are like volcano waiting to explode but before we explode emotionally we need to focus on self regulation. 

All that happens around us does not require our attention and reaction. Feelings and thoughts are like waves we can't stop them but we can learn to navigate them.

This navigation of emotions and feelings is part of our self care and mindfulness. That is why emotional regulation is important to our wellbeing as it stops us from exploding and becoming a emotional mess.

Let's look at few things you can do to prevent yourself from reacting emotionally.

Whenever you feel you are about to be reactive just take a break, stop and do deep breathing for 60 seconds this reconnects  your mind and body.

Always declutter your mind by going out for walk and reflect upon things in objective manner 

Take a step back have a glass of water and calm your self.this helps you relax and let the emotion pass.

At times it is better to walk away from the situation and give yourself time to process the experience. Walking away can help you give perspective and at the same time regulates your reaction and clear your mind.

It may sound cliche but counting till 10 will help you calm and prevent you from being emotionally reactive. This also helps in regulating associated feelings of anger, hate and frustration. 

To change current  the thought process is an effective way to relax yourself and beat way to do this is to think happy thoughts and give yourself positive affirmations…the best one that works is 'ALL IS WELL'.

Be aware of your senses, to stop reacting emotionally focus on positive sensation…think of 2 things you can smell, see, hear and feel…this will not only redirect your emotions but will also help you refocus on yourself.

Writing down your thoughts and what effects you most about the situation is another very useful and reflective way of inculcating self regulation.

Gaining control over emotions will help you become mentally stronger. Managing emotions requires practice and dedication and you will observe over a period of time you will be better at emotional regulation and deal with any challenging situation.

So next time when ever you feel you will explode stop take a step back and re-think…. 

Mentoring Young Minds

 During early childhood years specially pre-primary and primary classes teacher play an important role in shaping the identity and personality of the student. During this phase teacher acts as mentors who shapes not only their self image but also creates platform for them to choose their aspirations, dreams and goals for future.

At this time teacher is the  most important factor as they play important part in shaping child's social and intellectual foundation which becomes the base for his adult life.

The question now arises:

In these changing times how can teacher mold these young minds and mentor them?

Most important factor is to create balance between learning and education. even though both are interrelated topics  at the same time are two independent aspects of teaching. right balance between these two aspects will lead to innovation and experimentation in teaching which in turn will  lead to mentoring young minds towards a much better learning graph.

only when we can create this balance can we also make  teaching fun, as the child becomes the part of the learning  process, they  no longer act as  beneficiary of the system.

Let us know few strategies and techniques that can be implemented at classroom level to help mentoring young minds and also make learning fun.

Conferencing is an interactive method which a teacher can use while helping child learn the process of delegation and teamwork. for each assignment small groups can be made and each member can contribute to the learning based on their  interests, likes and strengths. Activities and homework can be tailored as per the need of the group; Apart from regular conference every day mini conference can be planned at the beginning of the class to help clarify doubts, monitor progress and keep everyone on the same page in the group.

Play method which is so often used in academic teaching should be initiated to inculcate social behavior, values and skills to mentor social and emotional  development in the children.

To help children learn the importance of cooperation, respect and camaraderie peer learning or cooperative learning plays an important role this also helps student learn and focus on thigs they can control and change. It helps builds social character in them along with emotional stability.

At this stage teacher is more of an ideal and is considered as model for imitation children try to act and behave like the teacher, therefore it is important that teacher speak their language are well versed with the technology and are conversant in the current lingo , jargons and slangs that young are so well versed with even at this stage. This helps in building a bond and trust which fosters not only a learning environment but also encourages better creativity, problem solving, communication and awareness.

mentoring will be successful only when children are made responsible  and are encouraged to take ownership of their education and learning. this makes them active participants in the process and this can be initiated by  helping them set class goals, individual goals, have them plan daily activity organizer and charts which have specific goals and ways to achieve them.

When we talk about mentoring young minds at such early age we need to focus on multidirectional learning where different subjects can be inter linked along with real life based project work which creates curiosity and motivates children and initiates collective efforts.

Setting firm and real expectations for children helps them become realistic and effective in planning their schedule, this also helps them to learn to regularly evaluate and make reasonable changes to their planning.

Open and honest communication is the key to mentoring because it helps children acknowledge their feelings and emotions and know how to communicate them effectively in an proactive manner rather than in an reactive manner. At the end of class leave ten minutes aside for to talk to children and to give them opportunity to share. have a special meet the mentor session where children can interact with you and discuss anything they want to.

Give them choice and let them choose, help them understand that every choice they make they have to  learn to take it to logical conclusion and also help them understand that to  make choices is not wrong what is important is that we work honestly and be prepared for what consequence our choice leads to. this understanding will help them master the art of not giving up and work towards their goals with sincerity. 

In the end we can say that by giving children choices, making them responsible and  part of the learning process teachers can make a remarkable progress in the classroom setting. This leads to their learning being permanent and education being integral part of their personality.

Teacher moves from being an educator to mentor helping children become empowered and well adjusted individuals in life.

Till next time we meet ....

take care and stay safe

Limiting Belief

 We are what we think and our identity is shaped by our belief system. we make our choices and decisions in life based on these believes. we form them  by observing people around us by understanding what is expected out of us.

To these ideas we add our own assumptions based on meaning we attach to our experiences in life. This leads to us making conclusions in life based on how things have  worked for us in past. This leads to adopting our belief which then becomes our world view. This is the world view act upon in our life.

These interpretation of the world around us is based on our interaction with the world.

Question is:

How do these belief limit us or creates barrier for our own growth?

most of the time we do things to fit in, to confirm, to belong or to relate to people around us rather than focusing on being ourselves.

This creates conflict between what we want to be and how we perceive things. these limiting believes become main cause for cognitive distortion and limits us to achieve our full potential...

Limiting believes are reinforced ideas which are unhelpful.

There are three main categories of limiting belief:

first is core identity we form of our selves (Who am I!)...

In this limiting idea we create set of ideas and belief about ourselves. We box ourselves based on what others think of us in certain categories and roles. These roles create our limitations.

Second is core abilities (What I can do!)

In this limiting idea we restrict ourselves in our abilities. we hold on to certain norms and restrict our abilities. this leads to making us unacceptable to change and we hold back ourselves without realizing our full potential.

Third and final limiting  is Our ability to learn and solve problem (How can I do!)

in this limiting idea we restrict our capacity to learn and solve problem. Here fear plays an important role. It restricts us from trying and boxes us in social conformity. we limit ourselves by reinforcing the idea "I Can't ".

These limiting believes can be changed by changing our perspective. it is a process which can take time and be challenging.

This change happens when we change ourselves from being reactive to proactive. Once we are proactive we take responsibility for change and become open, receptive and appreciative towards changing belief.

till next time when we will discuss more of these limiting believes and how to overcome them...

take care and stay safe..

Seven Mistakes in Goal Setting

 Our goals are our guiding principles they help us achieve what we aim for in life. Our goals determine how we outline the vision of our life, Based on our vision we create our long term goals ,medium term goals and our short term goals. These goals motivates us to work harder and makes us responsible for ourselves. these goals form hierarchy and fulfillment of one leads to fulfillment of another....

So where do we go wrong in our goal planning???

When we set unhealthy expectation in setting goals we create complication. At times we know what we don't want rather than what we want ,this creates  confusion and loose the plot...

There are seven mistakes we generally make unknowingly in goal setting that causes problem and stops us from achieving our goal. understanding these mistakes helps us be responsible and accountable for our actions.

Not writing down your goals 

it is very important that we write down our goals. only when we write them down do we actually acknowledge them and work towards them. when we write our goals down we frame them in a positive manner and check how they can change our current situation and help us refocus on things that are important. Always write down your goals.

Having unclear motives

Sometimes we are very vague in our goals because we are not clear what our motives are. why are we setting these goals and what do we want to achieve. have a clear motive based on your expectations and priorities in life.

Setting unrealistic goals

Another major mistake which we do is set unrealistic goals only focusing on one aspect of what we plan to achieve and forget the long term requirement of it. we over compensate on one aspect and ignore others which leads to unclear motives and as a result we feel devastated and give up when we cant achieve it.

Not having a plan

when we base our goals on our feeling than on action we loose focus. this is the mistake which derails our efforts as we look at our goals from emotional perspective than practical one. To be able to achieve our goals we need to move from feelings to action only then can we have a tangible and realistic plan to work on.

Not taking Action

One of the major sins in goal setting is procrastination or delay that we make in taking action towards our goals. It is very important to take action without delay  because that determines our own commitment to change and growth. when we don't take action we loose focus and do not move ahead, this leads to giving up on ourselves and on our life's vision.

Losing Focus

Next mistake that we make is we loose focus after a while this happens when our motives are not clear and our goals are not in tune with our core values. when our priorities are not clear and we don't have a plan we loose focus and our goals remain unfinished. we need to regularly work and have ourselves responsible and accountable for our goals.

Lack of or No follow up

At times we do not follow up or follow through our plan due to which we are never able to work on our goals. Lack of or no follow up creates a gap which is difficult to fill and we get lost and give up on our own goals just moving through life aimlessly. 

Be careful of these mistakes these are the reasons why we fail. Understanding these mistakes helps us create balance and work proactively towards our goals.

Next time you plan your goals keep these in mind...

Till next time take care ...

RESPECT YOUR CHILD

Most of the parents complain that the child does not listen and does what is not to be done.

 Why this disobedience? Is what parents want to know?

Answer is right in front of you; all you need to do is look at it.

Most of us adopt parenting style our parents used, what our friends share and today as more aware parents what we read. But the truth is to make your child understand and listen to what you have say is to listen to him and understand the child’s view.

Child’s view? Now what’s that?

His world, perspective, his thoughts and his sphere of thinking …..In short his World

Yes, once you enter his world you will know what he wants and how to talk to him to make him know your world.

Most of us are aware about these things….all we need to do is improvise

So let’s start talking to our children so that they listen…. Always remember the trick is to keep things as simple as you can and be brief there is no need to ramble and talk too much to confuse self and the child. As far as possible use single sentences and easy words so that children can remember and follow what you are trying to say.

It’s very important to observe how kids communicate between themselves and you will automatically see the loopholes and where you are missing things. It’s important to connect with the child so that they understand what you want to say. Best way to connect is make eye contact with the child, address the child directly and create an open path by the way of your body language.

How do we create open communication?  What is open communication? Parents are often very perplexed about this.

Well open communication means giving your child authority to speak their mind and not be held for what they say. That does not mean they can say anything….this implies giving them opportunity to learn responsible communication.

To make this effective you need to create emotional equilibrium so that you and your child is on the same space. Let the child know it’s ok to be upset and disturbed but what is important is how you say it. You need to be a patient listener let your child complete his thoughts because if you become adult at this point you are creating that barrier and then you need to deal with the tantrum because child will ultimately say what he wants to, you need to decide how….

Little bit of listening, little bit of care and lots of understanding will help you understand your child better and communicate with them…..well there is no written rules of parenting it’s ok to be wrong and accept it…. that teaches the child to be real because ultimately he needs to learn to be real in this world.

 So start listening and happy parenting…..

Till next time cheers :)

Tranquil Life : Things that Matter...

Have you ever wondered in spite of having everything a good job, a big house, latest car...still you feel like something is missing ,you feel lonely and nothing matters ...you question every thing around you even your existence ...value of your life...

I have ... 

that is when I realized in spite of having all material things all i wanted was a tranquil and peaceful life...

life will not go on forever there will come a day when nothing will matter there will no longer be the sunshine's in life. that is why we need to focus on things that matter....

This will happen when we re shift the focus in our life from momentary things to more stable things...things that bring contentment in life leading to a peaceful and tranquil existence..

too often we either feel bitter about past or get stuck worrying about the future and forget what matters is only this moment : NOW

To have a peaceful life we need to understand on what do we lay foundation of our life.

we generally create our self worth and self concept on : how talented we are, how good looking are we, how articulate or knowledgeable  are we  therefore what matters to us is a good job, our success, our popularity, appearance, body type ,our sexuality, our gender, our possessions, what others think of us,

This understanding of self is very superficial and that is why when these things get effected we feel less confident, worthless and our self esteem is shattered as a result what do we overcompensate on one aspect of our life...but when that also is over or fades away....

The question returns....

WHAT MATTERS THE MOST?

We will know the purpose of life once we realize what maters is our belief, values, attitude, how we treat people around us , efforts we put in our relationships, habits we form and how honest we are.

For tranquil life we need to place our confidence on our true self and understand that we need to be more grounded on how we see our self and shift our focus on these things which matter as they make us more authentic and genuine towards our self and others.

Mahatma Gandhi has said:

"Your belief become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your action, your action become your habit, your habit becomes your value ,your value becomes your destiny."

Things that matter the most are things we do not see the love we share, our purpose in life, inner peace, our relationships, our comfort with others....

Till next time take care and be safe...

 

balance your life - Acceptance and Change

Carl Rogers has said

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am then I can change."

these are two very positive yet in sync aspect of life...to understand acceptance and change we need to break the misguided belief that...

If we accept things we Refuse to change"...

If you focus too much on changing your emotions, thoughts and situation you can have a personality crisis  and if you accept blindly you can become too complaint. for meaningful life and to have positive change we need to create a balance ....

Balance between good and bad, right and wrong, positive and negative, This balance between opposite forces creates foundation for acceptance and change. by creating this balance we acknowledge the reality of the situation but also agree upon the willingness to do something about it...

it is like standing on the balance board you will struggle and shift to create the balance but once you achieve it - that is when change happens you now work towards maintaining balance. more you practice ,check with yourself better will be your balance.

Acceptance and change are powerful tools and to find your balance can help you transform your life.

To know what to accept and what to change we need to shift our perspective from acceptance OR change to acceptance AND change.

In this shift we first accept in order to create change. We accept our thoughts ,feelings and situations as they are then we learn new coping skills to manage our situation and bring change in our thinking ,emotions and situation.

 Example :

 From acceptance or change: ' I hate I'm so depressed there is something wrong with me I need to fix myself.

To acceptance and change: ' my feeling of depression are part of me right now ,I'm frustrated that i feel this way, but  I know i can learn skills to manage it.

Its easy to accept what we need to and understand what best can be changed.

by accepting we let go of the pain, bitterness and focus on making a positive ,proactive plan for change,.

Today I leave you with serenity prayer by American Theologist  Reinhold Niebuhr....

" God grant me the serenity to accept the things i can not change,

   Courage to change the things I can and

   Wisdom to know the difference....

till next time take care and stay safe...

happiness and self

Some one long back had shared with me that 'U' and 'I' are very important letters, as there cant be smile without 'I' and Success can not be without 'U' nor can you laugh without 'U'....therefore lets join 'U' &;I' to create our own sky. In todays time it is very important that we reach out and stay connected.

Happiness and self are very closely related it is important that in searching happiness we search ourselves. sometimes we are are looking for acceptance and companionship but we forget that most important part of this journey is ourselves...

All of us have our stories and believe me we are the STARS of our story we might not feel like one ,but that's just because we have not accepted ourselves . Open your arms and say it loud...

"I am the Star of my story"

only once we acknowledge our selves will we acknowledge others in our life.

What is happiness? why to we crave for it or search for it?

Is it a feeling, fleeting experience, skipping of heartbeat,  state of mind, our way of thinking or just an attitude.

in my opinion happiness is smile which comes on our face in any situation....That smile gives you hope ,a sense of belonging, courage, joy....smile just happens. however difficult our life may be smile is an indicator that we can take baby steps towards a happy self....it gives you courage to take that first step towards change.

So how do we be happy?

believe in the wonders of life however small it may be ...see the magic feel the miracle of the life...look at a sleeping baby, gaze at the stars, feel the sunshine...experience an act of kindness...All this is happiness...

See the good around you celebrate little victories and joys in life let go of things remember nothing is permanent its just a phase which will pass...

Happiness is not having achieve certain things like a good house, best car ,job...but happiness is knowing that journey will be difficult but I am not perfect and that is good enough.it is being at peace with your imperfection...this is acceptance which will lead to happiness not momentary joy or satisfaction but meaningful satisfaction.

Believe in three "P's' of life POURPOUSE, PLEASURE & PASSION.

Have a purpose for your self let go of past focus on now , we all have a purpose in life we need to find it and work on it.

have Passion for little things in life ,learn new skill, move on make space for yourself.

look for small pleasures in life, enjoy every moment of it and be content ...

let this be your guide for handmade happiness...

Walt Disney said:

"Happiness is state of mind. It's just according to the way you look at things."

till next time ...take care and be safe....

Do Not Panic...All Is Well...

Here’s what you need to know and do in the next few days:
# All banks will remain closed for public work on November 9.
# Deposit currently used notes of Rs 500 and Rs 1000 in post office accounts or banks by December 30, 2016. There will be no limit on the deposit amounts.
# Exchange old notes of Rs 500 and Rs 1000 at any bank, head post office or sub post office by showing ID proof. The limit for this is Rs 4000 upto Nov 24.
# There’ll be a limit on withdrawal of Rs 10,000 per day and Rs 20,000 per week. This limit will be increased in the coming days.
# No restrictions of any kind on non-cash payments by cheques, demand drafts, debit or credit cards and electronic fund transfers.
# Rs 500 and Rs 1000 will cease to be legal tender from the midnight of November 8, 2016.
# On Nov 9 and in some places on Nov 10, 2016, ATMs will not work.
# For 72 hours, these places and institutions will continue to accept Rs 500 and Rs 1000 notes for payment:
--Government hospitals will continue to accept old Rs 500, Rs 1000 notes for payment.
--Rrailway ticket booking counters, ticket counters of government buses and airline ticket counters at airports will accept old notes for purchase of tickets.
--Petrol, diesel and gas stations authorised by public sector oil companies
--Consumer co-operative stores authorised by state or central government.
--Milk booths authorised by state governments
--Crematoria and burial grounds

Promise....

What is a promise …?

Promise to love to be together or promise to serve with pride…

Promise that stole a heart or a promise that is to save and protect…

Promise to be together forever or a promise to sacrifice everything forever…

Promise to hold on when things get difficult or promise to let go when choices are difficult…

Why do I feel the pain of every broken promise yet not from the choices?

What is a promise…?

Promise to give one’s life protecting faces or promise to come back to face we love…

Promise to be there for every birthday party or promise to be there for next anniversary…

Promise never to walk away or promise to hold on…

Promise of rising sun or promise of dusty roads..

Why do I not cry on every unanswered question yet on every answer?

What is a promise…?

Promise to love, promise wait, promise to smile, promise to share or promise to carry on …

Promise to sacrifice, promise to honor, promise to camaraderie, promise to an oath or promise to uniform…

Why do I keep them close to my heart yet close my heart to these promises?

What is a promise…?

Promise to keep up with pride in my every stride…

 Promise I made to a man and his uniform,

Promise that whenever a promise is broken my tears will have pride, my heart will have courage and my life will be honored…

Promise to see joy in lives I don’t know, smiles on faces I never met…

Promise for a smiling face, promise of a warm hug, promise to be back…

I now know promise is hope, promise is love, promise is being together even when apart, promise is my wait to see my soldier in uniform…

Ode to Army wives....

Hi all
 I wrote this poem for AWWA journal on celebrating 50 yrs..
This poem is for all young girls who marry men in uniform and become most efficient,independent,multitask master and who know nothing in life is permanent ....this is for these beautiful army wives and the organization which has grown over the years...memories of an organization...AWWA
     
              MEMORIES

I look into the mirror watching me grow,
I stand on my toe, I know who with me grow...
My memories are gift of toughest times,
For part of me has always mourned death of dreams which did not go alone ...
Beautiful memories have guided me,
Unseen,unheard but always near,never to part all along...
Million precious memories grow with me
Celebrating,nurturing ,transforming ...
Brides into army wives,dreams into reality,
Strangers into friends,house into home,
Hope for today is brighter tomorrow ...
I look into the mirror, as I grow,
 celebrating fifty years of togetherness...
Is me AWWA with Asha,Vishwas and Astha.

Till next time...
Take Care...

Moving on .....

My last post was in 2012....its now been almost 3 years since.... I have written anything on this blog,its not like I have not written or  did not want to write.... its just that life was teaching me new lessons and I was learning to cope with what was happening and has taken me this much time to evolve and come back to being me again... some body had once said to me life takes your exam first and then gives you lesson....this was exactly what was happening to me...

I underwent surgery which developed complications....was in ICU for a while and it took three months in hospital to recover and rehabilitate my self ....overcame this is when had few personal tragedies ....which I rather not talk about...in between all this underwent three IVF treatment...may be time was not right for us to be parents so...this is when  we (me and KK) decided...kk my husband...lets move on we are just getting trapped in the vicious cycle....We decided to move on .....moved to a new place started studying again...slowly life was coming back with the lesson...cliched but true...Let go and move on...

So after all this happening in past I have moved on and today restarting and writing on my blog again...with aim to help me be my self again and just enjoy what I do...

happy to be back and writing....

Till next time ....

take care and be safe...


  

tribute....

Nirbhay this one is for you....
May you rest in peace....

मन  के आइने में झाका तोह जाना ,
क्या है अरमानो की गहराइयाँ ,
तमनाओं को मार के समझे ,
सपनो की है यह पर्छआईयन,
यह कोशिश भी ना  की हम्ने ,
की रोक पाए खुद को ,
किन तस्वीरों में धुंडी हमने साथ की नर्मियां ,
रात के अंधेरों में धुन्ड़तेह है उसे ,
जिसने दिन के उजालों में दी हमें तन्हैयाँ ,
साथ पाने की जो जिद है ,
बन गयी है साथ निभाने की रुस्वाही ,
जाने कहाँ से सिस्कि  सी निकली ,
अपनों को तलाशती अनजानी परछाईयां ,
मन के आइने में झाका ......

Funny and Interesting Facts

1. The Grammy Awards were introduced to counter the threat of rock music. In the late 1950s, a group of record executives were alarmed by the explosive success of rock ‘n roll, considering it a threat to "quality" music.
2. Tea is said to have been discovered in 2737 BC by a Chinese emperor when some tea leaves accidentally blew into a pot of boiling water. The tea bag was introduced in 1908 by Thomas Sullivan of New York.
3. Over the last 150 years the average height of people in industrialised nations has increased 10 cm (about 4 inches). In the 19th century, American men were the tallest in the world, averaging 1,71m (5'6"). Today, the average height for American men is 1,75m (5'7"), compared to 1,77 (5'8") for Swedes, and 1,78 (5'8.5") for the Dutch. The tallest nation in the world is the Watusis of Burundi
4. Joseph Niepce developed the world's first photographic image in 1827. Thomas Edison and W K L Dickson introduced the film camera in 1894. But the first projection of an image on a screen was made by a German priest. In 1646, Athanasius Kircher used a candle or oil lamp to project hand-painted images onto a white screen.
5. In 1935 a writer named Dudley Nichols refused to accept the Oscar for his movie The Informer because the Writers Guild was on strike against the movie studios. In 1970 George C. Scott refused the Best Actor Oscar for Patton. In 1972 Marlon Brando refused the Oscar for his role in The Godfather.
6. The system of democracy was introduced 2 500 years ago in Athens, Greece. The oldest existing governing body operates in Althing in Iceland. It was established in 930 AD.
7. A person can live without food for about a month, but only about a week without water.
   If the amount of water in your body is reduced by just 1%, you'll feel thirsty.
   If it's reduced by 10%, you'll die.
8. People say "Bless you" when you sneeze because when you sneeze,your heart stops for a mili-second.
9. In a study of 200,000 ostriches over a period of 80 years, no one reported a single case where an ostrich buried its head in the sand.
10. It is physically impossible for pigs to look up into the sky.

 Note : that some of the 'facts' below have been proven false myths. 

Source: http://bootstrike.com/LaughterHell/Misc/miscs13.php

सपनो की दुनिया ...

सपनो की दुनिया ...
कितनी खाहिशों  की दुनिया ,
आसमानों को छुने की दुनिया ,
नई उमीदों की दुनिया ,
जुगनुओ की जगमगाहट की दुनिया ,
ये सपनो की दुनिया ......

अपनी पहचान बनती दुनिया ,
हाथों को जोडती  दुनिया ,
मुस्कुराहट बिखेरती दुनिया ,
अपनों को मिलाती दुनिया ,
ये सपनो की दुनिया ....

चाहतो को बढ़ाती दुनिया ,
अरमानो के पंख लगाती दुनिया ,
ज़मी पर तारों की दुनिया ,
कहानी यों को हकीकत करती ये दुनिया
हार को जीताती ये दुनिया ,
ये सपनो की दुनिया ......

Life is Beautiful

life is beautiful.....
sun shines bright ,stars are lovely.....
shadows on the sand,smiles on the faces,
hand in hand, creating spaces...
smiling on your face....

hug of a child, touch of love,
tears of joy,shades of love,
blessings of prayers,
smiling on your face....

life is beautiful...
in child's game,mothers song,
togetherness to belong,
time gone, memories holding on
smiling on your face....

ah ! Life is beautiful

All in days work....

A man came home from work and found his 5 children outside, still in their pyjamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around garden, The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the ho

use and no sign of the dog, walking in the door, he found ...an even bigger mess.

 A lamp had been knocked over, the throw rug was against one wall, In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door.

 He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

 As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pyjamas, reading a novel... She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went. 

He looked at her bewildered and asked, 'What happened here today?

' She again smiled and answered, 'You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?...

''Yes," was his incredulous reply..

She answered, 'Well, today I didn't do it.’

weekend blues....

Hi guys long time ....I know every time I disappear and when I come back , I start by saying...LONG TIME NO NEWS...bhai missing toh hum the....

kher lifes been busy as usual ghar ,grahasthi aur kam

but week goes by when weekend comes its like

 yaar fhir sunday aa gaya?

actually sunday ko kam double ho jata hai kyun ki patidev ghar per hote hai....and sabse badi tension khane mein kya banega?

apart from that aajkal no gud movie to watch TV is most boring on sunday wohi ghisi piti movies aur serials ke repeats....

itna hi nahi monday morning ki tension......yaar hum six days a week kam karne wale hai, hamara weekend is from saturday...

toh but natural hai weekend blues hona

what say........

memories

when sun sets and stars shine,

I look at the sky and search the horizon,

for far away memories smile,

past is gone like spring moves on...

I reach out to hold on.....

moments smile sharing their thoughts,

treasure whats gone...

life may hurt, heart will ache but

time will heal so remember.....

memories are yours,smiles are there,

hold on because memories are your....